Are you feeling that your sex life is waning? We’re only in April! If the heat between the sheets has gotten cold, pay attention to the following seven tips. They are guaranteed to spice up sex for you and your partner. If you’re with a relatively new partner, Marie Stopes South Africa recommends that you both have HIV and STI testing to ensure you’re sexually healthy.
Embrace technology – sexting
Right off the bat let’s clarify, we’re not talking about X-rated conversations. This is about rekindling your sexual relationship. Send your partner a spontaneous message in the afternoon about some of the best times you’ve had together. Maybe, slip in a sexy innuendo or double entendre. This will help set the mood for later.
Go toy-shopping together
Does this sound embarrassing? If you’re not comfortable going into a shop, browse online. There are many different types of toys that you and your partner can use together. If you’re a rookie, do some research as well. Remember, you don’t need to be ashamed about sex toys. We know there’s a certain stigma attached to them, but there is nothing wrong with using them to heat up your sex life.
Communication is vital if you want to rejuvenate your sex life. Tell your partner how you feel, and ways that you think would reignite the sexual spark. For some, role-playing works well. For example, maybe her fantasy is for both of you to meet at a bar as ‘strangers’ and relive the time you first met. Dress up and set it up.
Try new sex positions
The predictable ‘Friday night run-through’ becomes stale after a while. Do some homework and find new positions to try. Read our article Five sex positions to make you go ‘ho, ho, ho’ this Christmas. Who says you have to wait until December to get a present?
Don’t forget about foreplay
Think of foreplay as your warm-up session. Here, you can start slowly exploring erogenous areas of each other’s body to find out what really ticks. This is the time when sex toys will be worth your while.
Tell your partner to jump into the car and take them to a hotel. The surprise element will definitely pique interest and keep him/her guessing about what will happen next.
The ‘old-school’ romantic gestures never die. Leaving a bunch of roses on the pillow, lighting scented candles or running a hot bath can be very sensual. When used in conjunction with the methods mentioned above, it can initiate a mind-blowing night of passion.
How Marie Stopes can help you
Marie Stopes is dedicated to informing women about their sexual and reproductive health. Please practice safe sex by using contraception at all times. Male and female condoms help protect against contracting STIs as well as unplanned pregnancy.
Should unintended pregnancy occur and you wish you terminate, we offer safe abortion services that are performed by medical professionals at our easily accessible clinics.
Schedule an appointment at your nearest center for more information.