Perhaps you heard all kinds of crazy stories from your schoolmates or maybe were given the wrong impression by elders or awkward parents giving you the sex talk. Whatever the reason, there are a ton of strange, funny and downright bad sex myths out there that are preventing you from having great fun between the sheets. Here, we’re busting five of them.
Sexy myth #1: Penis size matters
Guys, if you’ve never heard this before, let us be the first to tell you: it’s not about the size (or shape, or width) of your penis; it’s about what you do with it that counts!
Sure, it’s true that some people have a preference for a certain penis size. And it’s true that others may wish their partner was thicker, longer, shorter or thinner. However, surveys and even some studies have found that sexual satisfaction is influenced far more by psychological factors like intimacy, technique, interpersonal connection and relationship happiness than by the size or shape of the genitals involved.
Sex myth #2: Only men have wet dreams
Wet dreams are the result of having a sexually charged dream that brings a guy to (or close to) orgasm. There’s a prevailing myth that women don’t experience wet dreams, because of the lack of tell-tale signs (i.e: ejaculation). But this isn’t true. Some women experience nocturnal orgasms and this may, or may not, indicate that they’re having sexual dreams.
Sex myth #3: It only counts if you orgasm
Orgasms are great, but they shouldn’t be the only goal during sex. So while some people think of sex as a journey with orgasm as the destination, others know better: it’s about enjoying the scenery on the way!
Sexual intimacy should be about what feels pleasurable to you – and there’s much more to that than achieving orgasms. By exploring each other and getting to know what drives the other person wild, each sexual encounter can be an adventure in itself, with or without the big-O.
Sex myth #4: Women can achieve orgasm through vaginal sex alone
While some women can, many need clitoral stimulation too. In fact, a whopping 70% of women reach orgasm clitorally. Your sex positions also influence whether a woman will orgasm vaginally: by stimulating both her clitoris and G-spot during intercourse, you could bring her to orgasm.
If you want to increase your chances of orgasming during sex, try using a clitoral vibrator or a vibrating cock ring.
Sex myth #5: You feel less if you use a condom
The right condom can actually enhance sexual sensations for both partners. A survey by Luckybloke.com found that 68% of men choose the wrong size or shape of condom. When the men tested a range of condoms and found the ideal fit, their pleasure soared. Happy hunting – and testing!
Stay on top of your sex game
Knowing fact from fiction is only half the battle. The other half is being healthy so you can enjoy every sexual encounter. Pop into your nearest Marie Stopes for contraceptive advice, HIV counselling and testing, or STI screening and management, and get the peace of mind you need to have mind-blowing sex, starting today.