It’s not uncommon for couples to have disagreements and argue at times. Simply put, you’re two different individuals and your opinions are likely to diverge once in a while. While it’s important to learn how to engage with your partner, how you act after a fight can be as important to your relationship as well. Here are 12 reactions to avoid.
Don’t disrespect your partner’s need for space
It’s important to accept and respect when your partner says they need space. During an argument, one partner may feel overwhelmed and may not be able to process their thoughts at that exact moment.
Don’t give them the cold shoulder
As we’ve stated above, it’s okay if you need some space after a fight, and it should be communicated well. A number of people tend to “stonewall” after an argument. If you ignore your partner, it may feel like some form of punishment. This can be greatly harmful in future as they can simply hold back on telling you how they feel. Suggest a 24 hour period where you can cool off, and if that doesn’t work, you can circle back at a future time to resolve matters.
Don’t keep their words in your arsenal
This is an unpopular one in some circles, however, Whatever is said during a fight should stay there. If you or your partner are “List-makers”, you’ll resort to not talking about what’s bothering you. Instead, you’ll hang on to every statement they make during the fight and when whatever they said annoys you the following day, you use that as ammunition. Give yourself some breathing room instead of jumping into the argument so soon. Bringing up an argument too often can lead to repetitive cycles without hope for a resolution.
Don’t just say “I’m sorry”
If they’re still hurt, saying sorry may be deemed dismissive and that you want to be left alone. Clearly state what it is you’re sorry for, and you may follow up with a suggestion of what you can do in future to defuse any situation and this will emphasize your commitment to not making the same mistake again.
Don’t make excuses
A bad day at work, a headache or a restless night, these are some of the million things on which you could blame an argument. Passing the blame isn’t fair to you or your partner. Fights are about information and communication, If you’re angry that’s information you need to share with your partner.
Stay connected emotionally by sharing your feelings about your relationship and your future. This will take both your romance and your relationship a long way.
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