Good sex is great, but great sex is mindblowing! Make 2017 your hottest year yet with these top tips for better sex.
10 hot ways to have better sex in 2017
1. Stop having sex with lazy or unenthusiastic partners
As with the tango, it takes two. So if your partner isn’t totally into it, isn’t willing to pleasure you, or just lies there while you do all the work, move on. Bad sex is bound to happen if your partner is lazy or inconsiderate.
2. Get jiggy with yourself first
Despite what teachers, parents or society may have made you believe, there’s absolutely nothing wrong with masturbating. Practising some self-love is the best way to find out what you like. And once you know that, you can tell your partners how to make you feel great during sex.
3. Speak up
This isn’t about talking dirty, which admittedly isn’t everyone’s cup of tea (although if it’s yours, good for you!). Learn to be comfortable enough to tell your partner what you want and how you want it – be specific – or show them by guiding their hands or mouth. As you get close, keep talking, and tell your partner exactly what to do to take you all the way there – things like ‘faster’, ‘slower’, ‘to the left’, ‘harder’, etc. You get the picture.
4. Oil up
Sensual touching is an excellent addition to foreplay as it releases the powerful sex hormone oxytocin. Giving a sexy massage is super hot for both parties and a surefire way to ignite your sex drive.
5. A bigger, better O
For ladies who want to achieve the best orgasm possible, try getting into a friction position – like being on top – so your clitoris rubs against your partner’s pubic bone. Mmm… yes!
6. Slow down
Quickies are great in a cinch, but some women need a good 20 minutes of focused attention to orgasm. Feel like your partner is moving too fast? Tell them to take it slower so that you can climax together (if that’s your goal).
7. Say no to things you don’t feel comfortable doing…
You can’t have good sex when you feel uncomfortable – it’s as simple as that. Don’t let anyone pressure you into doing things you don’t want to do.
8. … but consider trying new things you’re curious about
You never know when a new move, position or location might give you a sensational orgasm. If you’re curious about something, bounce it off your partner and give it a try if they’re keen too. Remember, you can stop at any time, and just because you gave consent in the beginning doesn’t mean you can’t change your mind.
9. Relieve some pressure
Sex is about having fun and doing things that make your body feel amazing. If you’re stressing about orgasming, it’s hard to just let go and enjoy the moment. Having an orgasm shouldn’t be the only objective when you have sex. It’s also about the ride – and all the bumping and grinding that goes along with it. Great sex is no less great just because you didn’t climax.
10. Always use protection
No one can have a toe-curling orgasm when they’re worried about diseases or falling pregnant – that’s not a buzzkill, it’s a simple fact. When you know you’re safe from STIs and HIV (not to mention an unwanted pregnancy) you can really go all out and indulge completely in your pleasure. So don’t think of protection as a downer; think of it as a pathway to some of your best sex yet.
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